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Kids telling their stories

Kids telling their stories about when their parents divorced. Look at the difference when the parents stayed friends, or not. …

I Want My Ex to be the Best Parent He Can Be

My kids need their dad. It is important to their development and their wellness. I want him to be the …

TRICKS OF LIFE

Life is funny sometimes, the little tricks it does on us to learn our lessons of life. It took a …

The Divorce Challenge

Are you or a friend going through (or thinking about) divorce? You know how challenging it can be. I coach …

Imagine Peace

Can you imagine what your life would look like if there was no hate and no dislike between you and …

THE IMPACT OF DIVORCE ON BUSINESSES:

I am extending Beautiful Divorce into corporations. While divorce has a huge impact on our personal lives, it also has …

MY VISION? A HAPPY DIVORCED FAMILY! HOW?

Most think that it takes two to have a beautiful divorce. That is incorrect. It always starts with one person. …

I DON’T WANT SOMEONE ELSE TO BE AROUND MY KIDS

Anonymous: My ex is bringing his new girlfriend to stay over for the weekend with him and my children. I …

LETTING GO OF MY DEMONS

I have felt anger for the past few months. I have millions of reasons to be angry and so does …

CREATE YOUR OWN Beautiful Divorce.

Learn to communicate with your ex. Online Workshop Fee: By donation Where: On line How: Email me: yes@BeautifulDivorce.com Requirement: You …

COMMUNICATING WITH THE PERSON WHO BROKE YOUR HEART

We can no longer talk to each other the way we did (in fact, look where that took us) so …

Online Workshop

I am starting an online workshop for people who want to learn how to transform their communication with their ex …

Divorce? Highly Contagious.

Isn’t it funny how when we say that we are going through divorce, little by little our friends and acquaintances …

EVERYBODY HURTS

There is always someone hurting more than me and there always will be. Does it mean that I have no …

I am not a doormat!

It is funny how when I say that I have a beautiful divorce, some people automatically believe that I just …

TIME DOES NOT HEAL. IT ONLY MAKES YOU FORGET.

I keep hearing people say, “It takes time to be okay after a divorce, it takes time to let go, …

I DO NOT WANT TO MAKE HIM PAY

For people who want to have a respectful divorce and new relationship with their ex, it is very hard to …

TRUTH IS POWER

I recall one day, many years before our divorce, we got at each other’s throat and talked divorce in an …

TEXTING: CARTE BLANCHE FOR RUDENESS?

So much communication is now done through texting. Communication is already challenging but now we are taking it to whole …

THE BOOGIE MAN AND MY KIDS

I went to a body safety (children sexual prevention) course offered by my kids’ school. I learned so much. I …

DATING WITH CHILDREN?

My ex-husband dated right after we separated. She was a great woman, and she loved my kids. I only have …

GOOD DIVORCE OR HEALTHY DIVORCE?

I was having a conversation with a divorced man yesterday, his ex-wife being one of my close friends, and I …

I AM NOT VALUELESS

My whole life I felt that my value was directly connected with money. When I was making money, I felt …

Dear Judge

When the divorce was finalized and the judge declared us divorced, it felt very incomplete. Somehow, I thought that my …

Learn How to be Divorced

“Either run back to each other or learn how to be divorced”. This is what I received a few weeks …

It Does Get Better

One year after moving out I realized something major: My divorce was the catalyst of me finally owning who I …

Co-Parenting Class

A friend of mine just got out of a court ordered co-parenting class, and this was the interaction… I had …

DATING: CRAZY AND SCARY

I have started to put my nose out in the dating world. And I have to tell you, I think …

MY FATHER: MY WALL, MY INSPIRATION.

One evening, a few days after I moved out to my new home, the kids were at their daddy, a …

LETTING GO OF MY BABIES

From the moment they were born, I knew my children were my reason for living, my passion, my drive, my …

A Healing Heart

My life is now quite stable and filled with self-happiness, love of my kids, and a great relationship with my …

My First Birthday since the Divorce

I recall being scared on how I would feel for my birthday. I agreed with my ex that I would …

THE POWER OF TEARS

I got into an argument with one of my kids, and tears started to fill his eyes. I could see …

HOW LONG AFTER YOU DIVORCE DO YOU GET INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP?

Time itself is not important. It is what you do with it that matters. I decided to take all the …

The day my ex met someone new

Sadness, jealousy, and happiness. Those were the feelings that were going through me when I was looking at him while …

YOU KNOW HIM/HER BETTER THAN ANYONE, USE IT TO PROTECT YOURSELF.

When you first start the divorce process, everyone is so hurt that the game of finger pointing and blaming is …

How to find gratitude

How to find gratitude when you are so hurt and angry at your ex.? I asked to state two good …

All you need is courage.

Member: “Sometimes people don’t let go of their anger because that is all they have left.” That’s all they THINK …

It is all about give and take

If you want to get along with her, she will walk all over you. That could not be further from …

There is good all around me

Why is it so hard to let go of anger? Everyone around us tells us to let go and just …

If you could ask Gwyneth Paltrow anything…

If you could ask Gwyneth Paltrow anything about her “conscious Uncoupling” (or beautiful divorce). What you would want to know?

How do you keep calm when s/he wants to fight?

This is a question I get a lot: How do you keep calm when s/he wants to fight? No matter …

The Stages of Separation

I have read quite a bit of information about separations yet I cannot seem to find what I am looking …

Do you think therapy works?

Person A: “Do you think therapy works for keeping marriages together?” Person B: “Sometimes marriages just fail no matter what …

STBX

Question: So the stbx (soon to be ex) and I agreed that he would claim the kids and the taxes …

It Works!

A few feedback I got: “I am right there with you! Hard work at first but SOOOO worth the effort.” …

When do you get to tell the kids?

When do you get to tell the kids? We did not know how to do that. We wanted to make …

Why am I doing all of this?

Why am I doing all of this? Why am I advocate beautiful divorces? After all, I have already created mine, …

LIVE MOMENT

This is what is happening right now. I just clicked on promoting my page on facebook. And suddenly, a wave …

Don’t fight, just love

While some people work hard to create great wealth for their future, I am creating my future another way. I …

Triggers

We all have triggers. Some of us let them rule our lives, some of us choose to see them as …

The heart is always the best guide

When I talk about Beautiful Divorces, I am getting a lot of looks from people saying: “Hmmmm, that’s an interesting …

A New Mom?

I found myself wondering how I would feel if my kids decided to call my ex-husband’s partner, “Mom” or if …

To Those in Transition:

It is good to look back from time to time to appreciate what we have built, where we come from, …

Be the Adult

I feel my ex-spouse uses the kids against me. What do I do about it? Focus on what you are …

Facebook Divorce Groups…

I have joined two divorce groups on Facebook. All the hate, vengeance, and blame I am seeing in these groups …

We call it LOVE

Gwyneth Paltrow has been in the public eye a lot about her “conscious uncoupling”. It saddens me to read that …

Beautiful Life

Beautiful divorce is only about creating beautiful life after or during divorce.

Put it All in a Suitcase

Most of us decide to divorce to end the pain. Yet so many keep this pain with them while trying …

Raising Beautiful Families

I do not promote divorce. I promote the raising of beautiful families, through and after divorce. We also have a …

Creating Beauty despite lacking Reciprocal Respect

Question: What do you do to create beauty when there is no reciprocal respect? There are two cases: 1- You …

We all have the same story

Today I was asked a question by a person who is going through a hard time in her marriage (the …

What Beautiful Divorce is About

Why are you talking about Beautiful Divorce? It is such an appropriate time to talk about Beautiful Divorce. There is …

A Word of Caution

A word of caution: smile emoticon Once you focus on the good traits of your ex, you might think you …

Born Hating

It so resonates with Beautiful Divorce. This is what it is all about…

Ex’s new partner

I have been wanting to talk a little about my ex-husband’s new partner. There is so much to say, and …

Divorce is like a Birth

Funny how divorce is like talking about birth. We usually skip the painful parts and go right into the beautiful …

Hurdles

Question: Maybe talk about some of the hurdles you and or your ex could not overcome. Answer: If you are …

The Ex-Husband Who Never Left

There are beautiful stories everywhere, once you start looking… The Ex-Husband Who Never Left

Comfortable Posting

I realize that many of you are very interested yet uncomfortable in posting questions directly on this page and that …

How Do You Know Your Kids are Doing Well with the Divorce?

Question: How do you know your kids are doing well with the divorce? These are my first thoughts. I might …

Consciously Uncoupling

Consciously Uncoupling… Beautiful Divorce… it’s all the same… it works Article

The First Year

Someone asked me: How did you go through the first year? I learned to breathe. When the finger pointing and …

Sharing

Help me share Beautiful Divorce. Anyone have any suggestions of where I could speak? Clubs, organizations, gathering? Any suggestion are …

Hello

Hello. My name is Sandrine Heine. I have a story to share. I have three children (ages 8 to 12) …

Who is this For?

Who should be reading this? Who is this for? Anyone who knows someone who is thinking about divorce, who is …

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