How to find gratitude when you are so hurt and angry at your ex.?
I asked to state two good things about your ex (or STBX). Most of you were able to find two qualities. That means that all hope is not lost!! smile emoticon
The first step in creating a beautiful life after divorce (or during) is to let go of the hurt and resentment. Some of us don’t know how to do that.
This is the beginning:
Start focusing on the two good things that your ex is about.
– If they are a good Daddy or Mommy, focus on that. Find gratitude that s/he is a good parent, and be happy for your children.
– If you are happy because s/he is gone, then find gratitude in the peace and calm.
– If s/he is a good cook: Find gratitude that s/he is going to feed your kids well.
– If s/he is funny, be grateful for all the laughs that you got and for all the laughs that your kids will share with them.
(We sure can use a lot of laughter in our lives)
My point is that a beautiful life starts with you and what you want to focus on. Not one person is only bad. You would not have married them otherwise.
If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your kids.
Helps them see what you saw in him or her when the two of you first met.
Our children need both parents. If one cannot be present (for whatever reason), then introduce them to the person you used to know. Those stories are not lies, they are just from another time. Share those with your kids. They will love you for it and they will find love for their other parent.